Community Calls Silence & Sharing Circles with Mair Alight

As the convenor of this call, in my role of leadership, it is my intention to do what I can to attend to needs for safety and acceptance, for purpose and care, for inclusion and support, for choice and for mattering and belonging in a community of compassion. I continue to refine strategies to support attention to these needs. Your feedback welcome.

I offer these strategies to attend to those needs:

There is no check-in. We start exactly on the hour with our first 5 minutes of silence. The silence is for the purpose of self-empathy. If you come to the call and hear music, it means we have not yet started the silence. Silence means we are in the self-empathy silence space. Join in the silence, and I'll ring the bell when the silence ends for the round.
I will say the names of who is on the call for clarity and inclusion.

I will share something of what I experienced in the silence (or pass), then call on each person to express something of what they experienced during the 5 minutes of silence.
While each person is expressing the rest of us have the invitation to guess about that person's feelings and needs (what's important to them in the moment). We might notice when we realize we are in judgment of the person or of ourselves as we are listening, and offer ourselves empathy, returning to focusing our empathic presence with the speaker as we are able..

When the last person has shared or passed,we've had the opportunity to practice both self-expression, empathy for others and empathy for ourselves. I'll ring bell for next 5 minutes of silence. We proceed through the call this way.

During the hour there are no clarifying questions, vocal empathy guesses, reflections or mirroring. No cross-talk. No verbal empathy. Each person's line is muted when they are not speaking.

At the end of the hour, I'll open all the mics so that you can either say goodbye, or remain on the line if you want to participate in the "after-party".

I ask you to bring your own timing device to the call so that you can self-regulate your own sharing time. (In past calls people have usually spoken for 1-5 minutes.)

If you as a caller/listener don't want to hear the person speaking (for whatever reason), you can mute your own line for that five minutes, or set your phone down for a few minutes.

The purpose of this call is to practice the three modes of NVC: self-empathy, empathy with others and self-expression.

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